11 Comforting Songs for Parents Who Lost A Child
Published March 02, 2020
The most devastating thing that can happen to a parent is losing a child. There are no words that can begin to describe the grief, pain, and despair they are going through.
They not only have to say goodbye to a beloved child. They also have to let go of all their dashed hopes and dreams as well as deal with all the “what ifs” and “why’s” that have no answers.
If you are going through this tough time or know someone who is, here are some comforting songs for parents who lost a child. (Related: 10 Timeless Funeral Songs)
Gone Too Soon
As the title suggests, this song laments of a child who was taken away so soon. It expresses a parent’s sorrow and the multitude of questions they have no answer to.
Not a day goes by that I don’t think of you
I’m always asking why this crazy world had to lose
Such a ray of light we never knew
Gone too soon, yeah
I Will Carry You
This one of the comforting songs for parents which touched the heart of many. When the wife of the band’s lead singer was told her baby would not live long after birth, she was devastated. Despite this, they decided to carry on with the pregnancy. Even if they only spent a few hours with her, the loss was still devastating. This gives the song its poignant and hopeful message. It’s words beautifully capture a parent’s longing and gratefulness to God for letting her carry such a precious child.
So I will carry you
While your heart beats here
Long beyond the empty cradle
Through the coming years
I will carry you
All my life
And I will praise the One Who’s chosen me
To carry you
Elizabeth, You Were Born To Play That Part
by: Ryan Adams
Dedicated to a friend who lost a child before it was born, this is one of the comforting songs for parents that tells about the struggles of having to let go of someone. It also narrates the “why’s” and sleepless nights but with the hope that they are happy wherever they are.
Wherever you are, I hope you’re happy now
I’m caught in a dream, and I can’t get out
I’m caught in an endless dream
And I’m not strong enough to let you go
And I have tried everything
Dancing in the Sky
by: Dani and Lizzy
If any parent were given a chance to talk to their children in heaven, this song’s lyrics would be what they’ll say. It portrays someone’s hope that their loved one is now happy in heaven, even if they’re missing them here on earth.
I hope you’re dancing in the sky
And I hope you’re singing in the angel’s choir
And I hope the angels know what they have
I’ll bet it’s so nice up in heaven since you arrived
Hurting, healing, and faith – these are the three main messages of this song. It says that despite the pain they’re feeling, they understand that it is all a part of God’s plan.
We miss you every day, miss you in every way
But we know there’s a day when we will hold you, we will hold you
And you’ll kiss our tears away when we’re home to stay
We can’t wait for the day when we will see you, we will see you
But baby let sweet Jesus hold you until mom and dad can hold you
You’ll just have heaven before we do
You’ll just have heaven before we do
by: Laura Story
Most of the time, when we are in despair, we tend to question God’s existence. We constantly doubt his goodness and his love. But this song makes us think that maybe our trials and pains are just God’s mercy in disguise.
‘Cause what if your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You’re near
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise
by: Gerrit Hoffsink
Like most songs in this list, Still tells of a parent’s struggle to cope with the death of a child. It narrates their pain, heartbreak, and longing along with the hope that, in heaven, they’ll meet again.
Sometimes I find myself wondering what to do
With this pain that I’m going through
But I know one day, God will take me away
And I’m coming home to you
A Visitor From Heaven
by: Twila Paris
Healing and acceptance can be very difficult for parents who have just lost a child. But this song’s message tells us that while it’s not easy, we should accept that our loved one is in a better place now.
With aching hearts and empty arms
We send you with a name
It hurts so much to let you go
But we’re so glad you came
We’re so glad you came
Tears in Heaven
by: Eric Clapton
Composed after the death of his four-year-old son, Eric Clapton clearly poured his heart out in this song. Its heart-rending lyrics contain all his anguish, agony, and a wish that his son would still recognize him if they see each other in heaven.
Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven?
Would it be the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
‘Cause I know I don’t belong here in heaven
Heaven is the Face
by: Steven Curtis Chapman
After losing his five-year-old daughter in a tragic accident, singer-songwriter Steven Curtis Chapman released an album titled “Beauty Will Rise” which tackles the topics of loss and mourning. This song is part of that album and it tells about how he imagines what heaven is like now that his daughter is in it.
But in my mind’s eye, I can see a place
Where Your glory fills every empty space.
All the cancer is gone,
Every mouth is fed,
And there’s no one left in the orphans’ bed.
Every lonely heart finds their one true love,
And there’s no more goodbye,
And no more not enough,
And there’s no more enemy (no more).
by: Ed Sheeran
One of the comforting songs for parents that talks about the pain of losing an unborn child. In an interview, Sheeran admitted that he wrote it from the perspective of a friend who had a miscarriage. (Related: Bible Verses That Bring Comfort in Times of Loss)
You’re just a small bump unborn, in four months you’re brought to life
You might be left with my hair, but you’ll have your mother’s eyes
I’ll hold your body in my hands, be as gentle as I can
But for now, you’re a scan of my unmade plans,
A small bump in four months you’re brought to life
A small bump in four months you’ll open your eyes